Life is full of choices, and sometimes it can feel overwhelming. How long should you explore different options before committing to one?

Fear of missing out (FOMO) can make you keep searching while settling too quickly might lead to regret. But there's a way to navigate this dilemma: the 37% rule.

“Be prepared to immediately commit to the first thing you see that’s better than what you saw in that first 37%.” — Brian Christian

Consider the following situations in life:

How many people should you date before deciding to ‘settle down’ and get married?

How many interviewees should we look at before deciding on “The One”?

How many flats should I look at before saying “Yes” to one of the offers?

How many hotels should I look at before deciding on the one to settle into?

How many internships should you do before deciding on a job offer?

How many careers should you try out before you figure out which your favorite is?

All are the classic examples of a situation where you feel:

Overly Exploratory: Spend too long probing your options and you fall prey to analysis paralysis and let promising opportunities go by.

Overly Exploitative: Close out the process too quickly and you risk regretting options you never considered.

The answer to this challenge is to follow a single mathematically derived magic formula 37% rule, no matter what domain your decision falls.

## Why 37% rule?

Because the world greats said about the speed of decision-making:

“Life is Quicker Than a Blink of an Eye” — Jimi Hendrix

“The best kinds of failures are quick, cheap, and early, leaving you plenty of time and resources to learn from the experiment and iterate your ideas.” — Tom Kelley

“Better a good decision quickly than the best decision too late.” — Harold Geneen

## MAIN IDEA of 37% RULE

The 37 % rule or 37 rule comes from the Optimal stopping theory in mathematics, which determines the optimal time to take a particular action in order to maximize reward and minimize cost (best time to stop seeking more options and pull the trigger).

You need to come up with your total universe first and then calculate 37% of your options by either setting a maximum cap or a time-based deadline.

Let’s consider the example:

If you’re hunting for a new car, and decide you’d like to see 10 cars before making a decision, you should plan to see the first 3–4 with zero intention of buying them.

After exploring those, your exploratory period has reached a point of diminishing returns, and the next car that is better than those initial three is the keeper.

It’s normally best to spend the first third of your decision-making process acquiring facts that will help you avoid FOMO and analysis paralysis.

The secret to making outstanding decisions is striking the right balance between consideration and decisiveness, and the 37 % rule can help you achieve just that.

## MATHEMATICAL THESIS (1/e Stopping Rule)

This rule actually has a formula behind it and mathematicians insist this rule gives you the highest probability of making the optimum choice.

If you’re into math, it’s actually 1/e (1 over e, where ‘e’ is the basis of the natural logarithm), which comes out to 0.368, or 36.8 percent or 37% as the number of choices increases.

## PSYCHOLOGICAL THESIS (explore/exploit)

Mathematics provides the best optimal solution to the “optimal halting problem.”

But there’s just one big issue with it: Humans are not rational probability-crunching machines.

The opposite is usually true. We’re beautifully, infuriatingly, creatively, and messily chaotic.

So, it falls on psychology to tell us about how we behave.

In psychology and economics, there is what’s known as the “explore/exploit” trade-off. This asks whether you should go with a guaranteed “win” (the exploit) or risk going somewhere else for an unknown outcome (explore).

The degree to which someone will explore, or exploit will depend on a host of factors, and it ties in with how curious or risk-seeking we are.

According to Addicott’s research, which was published in Nature, being excessively explorative or too exploitative puts us at a disadvantage.

A person who investigates excessively runs the danger of becoming a “jack of all trades, master of none,” while a person who exploits excessively “may foster habit building.”

Over-exploiters lose motivation, grow bored, and get caught in a rut.

Over-explorers lack knowledge and never fully immerse themselves in anything.

The best behaviors, according to Addicott and his team, “occur at a point of equilibrium between the two.”

Of course, different people are more explorative or exploitative at different times.

Teenagers and entrepreneurs tend to explore more.

Adults and managers exploit more.

Try testing yourself with these three questions, to see where you fall:

If you are visiting a city, you know vaguely well, will you go to a restaurant you know is nice, or will you try somewhere new?

If I tell you a gambling machine has a payout of $50, will you stay and play or explore to see if others have a bigger payout?

When you’re playing a game, do you tend to stick to the same tactics or mix it up each time?

“True optimization is the revolutionary contribution of modern research to decision processes.” — George Dantzig

## TOP 3 EXAMPLES OF 37% RULE

### 1. SECRETARY PROBLEM OR HIRING PROBLEM

A historical problem that derived this rule was called the “Secretary problem” at around 1960.

Let’s suppose you want to hire a secretary. You want to find the best person for the job, but you won’t know how good someone is until you interview them.

At that point, you can choose to hire them (a permanent decision) or to move on and interview someone else.

The only catch is that once you’ve rejected someone, you’re not allowed to go back and hire them.

Then, how do you maximize your chances of finding the right person? If you’re hiring a secretary and plan to interview 10 candidates, let the first three go by.

Then choose the next person who beats that first bunch.

Basically, if you knew you were interviewing 100 potential secretaries, you’d interview and reject the first 37, and you’d keep in mind who your best-so-far candidate was as a benchmark.

From interview 38 onwards, you’d immediately hire the person better than your best-so-far candidate.

This is apparently how you maximize your chances of hiring the best overall candidate.

Of course, real-world situations don’t always conform so neatly to math theories.

Not knowing how many applicants you’ll get for an open position would make it hard to know when to stop interviewing and start hiring.

Still, imposing some structure and limits to a process that can too often drag on can only benefit you — and will kill your FOMO.

### 2. MARRIAGE PROBLEM OR DATING PROBLEM

So, let’s think over it for some time, what essentially the solution says is that if you have a consideration set of around 10 girls before you decide which one to marry, you should not commit to anyone, until you have looked through at least 4 of them.

Post which you should be ready to commit to anyone better than all previous ones.

If you’re hoping to be settled down by 40 and start dating in high school, take the first third of your dating life — up to around age 25 — to casually check out your options.

It’s very hard to know how many people we could end up feasibly dating, but it’s easy enough to estimate how much time we want to spend dating.

If for example, I’m open to dating between ages 18 and 40 (and assuming there’s no radical change in the number of people I’m getting to know each year), the 37% rule says that when I hit the age of 26, I should marry the next best person.

Here it is also called the law of mathematical dating or law of dating.

### 3. REAL ESTATE PROBLEM

In his book “Algorithms to Live By: The Computer Science of Human Decisions”, Brian Christian applies the 37% rule to assist Macy in finding the ideal apartment to rent.

In his words:

“Assuming you want the highest odds of acquiring the best apartment, spend 37% of your apartment search, or the first third (eleven days, if you’ve allotted yourself a month for the search), noncommittally examining choices. You’re just calibrating; leave the checkbook at home. But following that, be ready to immediately commit — deposit included — to the first location you find that surpasses all you’ve already viewed.”

This is more than just a naturally satisfying middle ground between looking and leaping.

It is the demonstrably best course of action.

## CONCLUSION

Following this rule will save you from unnecessarily wasting time in information gathering and data analysis, get you into action, and maximize your probability of success.

The next time you’re faced with competing choices, remember:

Roughly the first third of your decision-making process should be information gathering, after which time, selecting the next great option you encounter is optimal.

Mathematical proof of the 37% Rule:

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## FAQ

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